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Getting Organized When out in the Morning

Leaving home at the time in the morning is an absolute necessity to be on time for work and school, but the more we try to rush things, we are slower. And this is not just a premise such as “Murphy’s Law”, but has a psychological basis is based on the proven fact that nobody is able to function well in situations of too much stress. Moreover, many people tend to act more slowly than normal as a defense mechanism, to shun the encounter with the problem.

So, by telling children “hurry up” or “we’ll be late”, only achieved the opposite effect and, apparently, the only effective method to make everything goes as we want, is to seek a peaceful atmosphere in the morning .

Start each day with haste, nervousness, nagging and bad times, eventually turns into a negative energy drain for both adults and children. If every morning are a mess, the first thing is to rethink the situation, knowing that we begin each day of our lives in a more cheerful and calm. Then, the next step is to see how we are failing and how we can optimize our time to reach us.

By putting the plan into action, we must be aware of our possibilities: if one hour is not enough to raise the children, give them breakfast and fix it ourselves, it is clear that we need to get up earlier, which implies a small effort to change family habits.

Arrange your schedule

Children need to go to bed half an hour earlier so they can get up before and no dramas in the morning. Children is fundamental to good sleep and wake up peacefully, as they need a little more time than adults to go from sleep to wakefulness. Awakening with a start predisposes them to be lethargic and irritable during the day.

When you get up earlier, not only earns more time to do things, but also peace and harmony, which ultimately results in better family relationships and a better performance in daily activities.

Set up routines
Children need their routines are organized by adults, therefore, is to establish an order of the routine to be performed in the morning, if possible, allocating time, for example, first go to the bathroom, take a brief shower, dressing, hair and make breakfast. So the child will have a pattern to follow.

Besides making prepared clothing and backpacks can cause children to swim at night, leave the snacks ready in the refrigerator and the table laid for breakfast.

A snooze feature
Some children become lazy in the morning and stay skulking in bed, waiting for parents to go over and over again to wake them and help them get dressed. If your child has enough sleep, you can begin to discard the problem is lack of sleep, since you most likely do it for attention.

These cases are common, particularly in families that parents have little time during the week to share with the children, but the simplest solution is that it seems, and is seeking other organizations to do activities with children and provide they need attention at appropriate times.

The strategy of joy

Above all, try to keep a positive attitude and enthusiastic in the morning, so that their children become infected with this energy. If you get up discouraged, their children will follow this example.

It is also important that children’s efforts to be ready on time in the morning are compensated. Praise them when they do and sometimes, reward, for example, with a rich breakfast in bed this weekend.

Violence Against Children

Family Mediationin the case where children are involved in violence, it is also clear relationship when vulnerability and innocence that comes naturally to them.
It is clear that children are fewer resources to defend themselves than they would an adult.
In this sense, the risk becomes greater because it is a subject in the process of growth and constitution.

It should consider the emotional damage and the short-and long-term mistreatment causing more stress on children.
Often the batterer is because he was beaten from an early age and grew up in an atmosphere of total violence, which for him is normal.

It seems that parents in families where there are abuses and punishments as normal attitudes and punished with the full authority believing they are doing the best for their children.
It is significant that these rappers are manifest and adults perceive that they have beaten their children much less often than they do.

Some parents report feeling any remorse after punishes their children but the majority are in favor of punishment as a method of discipline and education.
The punishment received by adults on children is often related to the type of punishment that are used to “correct” their children.
Anyway this kind of behavior from parent’s batterers should be studied because there is always a reason and is stronger than before.