Can I control?
Sometimes it is downright difficult, if not impossible. Furthermore, it appears that there is a direct relationship between the reaction of tantrum by the child, or when the situation more uncomfortable for the mother. I mean, can that child from a tantrum at home and before you send it punished his room as he has passed. But if the tantrum is triggered in line at the supermarket, while the mother is keeping the purchase, the super is full and the cashier looks at the situation faced “how rude” the tantrum is highest.
What to do? Hopefully the method will work showed a TV ad, in which the mother was thrown to the ground and began to kick before he made his son. (I’ve tried and my son’s anger was rising to believe I was making fun of him).
Tantrums can be caused by the reason most absurd and baseless. Normally, children want to get away with it on very simple because they need to build your personality. They are taking orders all day, do not do this, stand here, do not shout, eat chicken, let your brother go to bed … As they get older, they need to show their character and rebel, in a way, against all the constraints and rules that must be met. At some point, want to set your criteria, get away with it simply because to do so, take the lead, to record its decision. A pediatrician once told me, three years, children experience their early teens, his personal struggle against the world.
When they get younger siblings, older people can accentuate a more rebellious behavior by simply calling attention and protest at having given his reign. But the issue of deposed princes, deserves another post.
As for tantrums in general, parents have to be patient and understanding because, in most cases, children with behavior, want to tell us something we do not know or can not express in words.
Punishing behavior usually gives a good result. The problem is when the punishment can not be applied immediately after the tantrum occurring. Children understand the negative consequences that triggers bad behavior on their part. But, three hours later punish, punishment loses its strength and its effect on the child.
Ignoring his attitude and realize that they do not get the attention of parents, may be a sufficient rebuke to the child and understand that it succeeds.